When any relationship ends it is painful particularly when one person isn't ready for it to be over. BUT this wasn't a normal relationship. The relationship was manufactured and your emotions were manipulated to make you feel anxious, nervous and your self-esteem is non-existent. There is a pattern to the behaviour • The Cycle of Abuse • Idealisation followed by Devaluation and then on to Discard. On average people go back to an emotionally abusive relationship between 7 to 8 times. When you are experiencing the discard stage all you can think of is getting back to the Idealisation stage where you feel loved and secure. Their BIGGEST FEAR is being abandoned and yet this is what they do. Normally I would be posting about healing from abuse but it is you are still caught in this cycle you might no be ready to do that. Here are 7 ways to make the Narcissist Miss you. See how you feel and you never know what your next step will be... I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules to. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU Images from UNSPLASH.COM music from BENSOUNDS.COM

The NARCISSIST and EMOTIONAL ABUSER used Sex to Manipulate and Bond you to them. This was a game and you didn't have the rules! And now you are left begging for more... In this video I look at how the Narcissist feels about sex - do they enjoy it or is it just a tool for manipulations? Perhaps you are confused and trying to understand what happened at the end of your relationship? Are you screaming on the inside but holding it together on the outside? Or maybe you are feeling crazy and nothing makes sense? Or it could be you are stuck in the cycle of questioning and doubting yourself IF ONLY AND MAYBE…“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ thinking it is all your fault! ABUSIVE CYCLES • The ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour used to gain POWER and CONTROL over a person. The cycle of abuse IDEALISATION • DEVALUATION • DISCARD I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

The NARCISSIST and EMOTIONAL ABUSER used Sex to Manipulate and Bond you to them AND they may have COERCED you to gain power over you! Sexual coercion is unwanted sexual activity that happens when you are pressured, tricked, threatened, or forced in a nonphysical way. Coercion can make you think you owe sex to someone. This was a game and you didn't have the rules! And now you are left begging for more... Perhaps you are confused and trying to understand what happened at the end of your relationship? Are you screaming on the inside but holding it together on the outside? Or maybe you are feeling crazy and nothing makes sense? Or it could be you are stuck in the cycle of questioning and doubting yourself IF ONLY AND MAYBE…“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ thinking it is all your fault! ABUSIVE CYCLES • The ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour used to gain POWER and CONTROL over a person. The cycle of abuse IDEALISATION • DEVALUATION • DISCARD I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life. Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

The NARCISSIST and EMOTIONAL ABUSER used Sex to Manipulate and Bond you to them. This was a game and you didn't have the rules! And now you are left begging for more... In this video I look at how the Narcissist feels about sex - do they enjoy it or is it just a tool for manipulations? Perhaps you are confused and trying to understand what happened at the end of your relationship? Are you screaming on the inside but holding it together on the outside? Or maybe you are feeling crazy and nothing makes sense? Or it could be you are stuck in the cycle of questioning and doubting yourself IF ONLY AND MAYBE…“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ thinking it is all your fault! ABUSIVE CYCLES • The ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour used to gain POWER and CONTROL over a person. The cycle of abuse IDEALISATION • DEVALUATION • DISCARD I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

COERCIVE CONTROL is EMOTIONAL ABUSE, it is used to harm, punish and frighten the VICTIM. This form of behaviour is used to make the victim dependent on the abuser. Isolating them from friends and family, they exploit them and deprive them of their independence, regulate their everyday behaviour. It does not relate to one single incident; it is a pattern that occurs over time. Used for one individual to exert POWER and CONTROL over another. #COERCIVE CONTROL is now a crime in the UK. The law came into force on 29th December 2015. In July 2019 #SallyChallen walked free from court which is now being used as a landmark case, that I hope will change the courts’ process when dealing with the real VICTIM. Sally murdered her husband in 2010. At the time of her conviction, #CoerciveControl was not a crime and she was sentenced to life imprisonment. Following the change in the law #JusticeforWomen submitted new grounds of appeal in 2017, these were refused by the judge. In February 2019 #HarrietWistrich asked for Sally’s conviction to be overturned and she was released in April on conditional bail. In June 2019, prosecutors accepted Sally’s plea of manslaughter. Sally had served 8 years and 10 months, her retrial was later dropped. COERCIVE CONTROL creates invisible chains. People might ask why you didn’t leave earlier, or why you didn’t you see what was going on. During the CYCLE OF ABUSE, there was a point where you lost who you were, and your focus was more about protecting the relationship than protecting yourself. It was these invisible chains that stop you from walking away, the fake future stops you from moving on. Your body gets used to the hormone triggers and is actually waiting for the next hit of Oxytocin you received during the #LoveBombing. The real victim finds themself in a world manufactured by the abuser, living in confusion and fear. Some common examples12 of COERCIVE behaviour are: Isolating you from friends and family, monitoring your time • Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware • Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep • Depriving you of access to support services, such as medical services • Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you’re worthless • Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you • Controlling your finances • Making threats or intimidating you • It is very likely that the victim of Emotional Abuse doesn’t realise they are in a controlling relationship, and this doesn't become clear until they are out of it. And it takes time to untangle from the invisible chains that held you there. Please be advised that this video is for education and entertainment purposes. All materials and photographs have been found on the public domain and are used under the US fair use and UK fair dealings guidelines. My comments are subjective and may not necessarily be true. I urge everyone to do their own research. Images and information from: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-surrey-48554239 https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/02/28/sally-challen-wins-appeal-against-murder-conviction-landmark/ https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2019/jun/07/sally-challen-will-not-face-retrial-for-killing-husband https://www.msn.com/en-ie/news/truecrime/yes-i-battered-my-husband-to-death-but-i-still-love-him-sally-challen-who-killed-her-husband-then-had-her-conviction-quashed-by-proving-his-psychological-torture-drove-her-to-it-tells-her-story-to-save-others-from-her-fate/ar-AAHirnr?li=AAaxjhv&%253Bocid=mailsignout#image=3 https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/the-case-of-sally-challen-review-even-after-she-killed-him-she-still-loved-him-lp0wj37q8 https://www.itv.com/news/2019-02-20/son-of-sally-challen-jailed-for-life-for-killing-his-father-hopeful-her-murder-conviction-will-be-overturned-on-appeal/ https://www.telegraph.co.uk/tv/2019/12/09/case-sally-challen-review-meticulous-look-one-surreal-cases/ https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/

The A-Z OF EMOTIONAL ABUSE IF FINALLY HERE! ***** 5 REVIEW • AMAZON CUSTOMER • 5.0 out of 5 stars • Awareness is freedom As part of the journey to valuing ourselves many of us experience different levels of abuse in a relationship. For a long time, such abuse was only taken seriously when physical in nature and even then often inadequately. Modern understanding can now expose the myriad forms abuse that can be experienced as well as the many strategies used consciously or unconsciously bey the perpetrator - coercive control and gaslighting are two examples which have recently been highlighted in the modern lexicon. This book will take you far deeper but beyond the descriptions what I love is that there is a great sense of hope, reassurance and inspiration that lights a way forward for those who are ready to reclaim their personal power. ***** 5 REVIEW • AMAZON CUSTOMER • 5.0 out of 5 stars A Great Guide to Understand Emotional Abuse in Relationships Relationships are not always perfect, but sometimes it is more than that - it really is the other person. If I had not suffered through such a relationship in my 20s I would have not believed it possible. But thanks to this book, I am not finally able to understand that it was totally not my fault. It helped me to understand what was going on and now I can let go of the doubt 'was it me?' Thank you for explaining this is such an easy to grasp format. If you, or someone you know, is in a bad relationship, please buy this book. They will start to understand what is going on and there are great resources to help you get out. No one should ever have to start in a relationship where they are not safe. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=cm_cr_srp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/9781916357709 It took a life of its own and was it own little healing journey writing it! I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY, SPIRITUALLY and FINANCIALLY. After another unhealthy relationship, I was a shell of my former self, I had lost everything; I was broke and I was broken. This was a game, but I didn’t have the rules, and I was stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself. Perhaps you are at the end of a relationship wondering, what happened, left with so many QUESTIONS. You’ve possibly been left so confused with no answers and NO CLOSURE. And if your reaction was disproportionate to the ending of the relationship, it could be an indication you were TRAUMA BONDED. You may have experienced the ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour; used to gain POWER and CONTROL over you and your life. The A-Z of Emotional Abuse will help you understand what happened to you; to understand: • Why it hurts so much • Why you can’t stop replaying the relationship over and over again believing this is all your fault! • The pain and why it feels like your soul has been sucked out of you. • What this relationship was really about. • Why you over-looked the red flags. • How they broke down your boundaries. • Why you still feel trapped. • Who you were really in a relationship with. • Why it felt safer in the relationship than it does now out of the relationship. Unless you are a survivor of emotional abuse, you have no idea what it means to fight a daily battle in your head with a person you are no longer in contact with. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindthegaptribe — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyoursoul/ — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Author - Finding Lily & A to Z of Emotional Abuse I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am a Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD. . If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of a relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules to. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken…  I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. Ho’oponopono is a very ancient Hawaiian art of problem-solving. as a gift to be shared and practised. Mornah Simeona is recognised for updating and bringing it forward she was a healer in Hawaii and taught her updated version of hoʻoponopono throughout the United States, Asia and Europe. Ho’oponopono means to make right or to rectify an error. “We are the sum total of our experiences, which is to say that we are burdened by our pasts. When we experience stress or fear in our lives, if we would look carefully, we would find that the cause is actually a memory. It is the emotions which are tied to these memories which affect us now. The subconscious associates an action or person in the present with something that happened in the past. When this occurs, emotions are activated and stress is produced.” By saying these words over and over, a person is said to connect her/his own inner light with the light of Source. Over time, patterns in the subconscious dissolve, and by forgiving the parts within that hold those patterns, the person’s outer world regains balance and harmony. I am sorry Please forgive me Thank you I love you https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=cm_cr_srp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/9781916357709 https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/a-z-of-emotional-abuse-elizabeth-goddard/1136411694?ean=9781916357709 If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU Music • bensounds.com Images • Unsplash.com and amazingwomeninhistory.com

Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of a relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules to. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=cm_cr_srp_d_product_top?ie=UTF8 https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/9781916357709 https://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/a-z-of-emotional-abuse-elizabeth-goddard/1136411694?ean=9781916357709 If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU Music • bensounds.com Images • Unsplash.com

We develop bonds for survival in childhood, usually with our caregiver, which is the foundation of attachment. When our safety is threatened in some way, we turn to our caregiver, for support and protection. Toxic and Emotionally Abusive relationships are so hard to heal from. The damage caused puts you into a state of confusion, you had no idea the abuse was taking place; and like Chinese water torture, it happened very slowly and it turned you insane! In this video, I talk about • what Trauma Bonding is • what the different types are • understanding why it happens • taking responsibility for you healing In a Toxic or emotionally abusive relationship, there is a BONDING that happens, during the CYCLE OF ABUSE. A bonding takes place in most relationships, but this is one-sided. Patrick Caines developed the term TRAUMA BONDING as 'The misuse of fear, excitement, sexual feelings, and sexual physiology to entangle another person.’ during his work with sexual addiction. The TRAUMA BONDING is the reason you find finding it so hard to move on... A to Z of Emotional Abuse Waterstones https://www.waterstones.com/book/a-z-of-emotional-abuse/elizabeth-goddard/9781916357709 Book Depository https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/9781916357709 Amazon.co.uk https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1HFCXHD8LB8EM&dchild=1&keywords=a-z+of+emotional+abuse&qid=1585842200&sprefix=a+to+z+of+emotional+a%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-3 Barnes and Noble https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1HFCXHD8LB8EM&dchild=1&keywords=a-z+of+emotional+abuse&qid=1585842200&sprefix=a+to+z+of+emotional+a%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-3 Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=sr_1_1?crid=15XOW0U2ONL0W&dchild=1&keywords=elizabeth+goddard+a-z+of+emotional+abuse&qid=1586549715&sprefix=a-z+of+emotion%2Caps%2C207&sr=8-1#customerReviews Music from bensounds.com Images unsplash.com