Are you still trapped by the trauma bond? Trauma Bonding is the most painful and emotionally paralysing thing that can happen to you. And it is the Trauma bonding that keeps you trapped for so long. This was a game and you didn't have the rules, and while you are trying to understand what happened you might receive contact, they poke you wanting you to react for their own enjoyment, entertainment and validation. Find out if you are still trapped and what you can do about it WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul/ — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/14994... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... #npd #narcissist #traumabonding NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Emotional Abuse Expert & Author - Finding Lily and A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I qualified Spiritual Life Coach helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD. Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life BUT I also know what it is like to be finally free! A to Z of Emotional Abuse Waterstones https://www.waterstones.com/book/a-z-... Book Depository https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-... Amazon.co.uk https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-... Barnes and Noble https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-... Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Z-Emotional-Ab... Music from bensounds.com Images unsplash.com

When any relationship ends it is painful particularly when one person isn't ready for it to be over. BUT this WASN'T a normal relationship. The relationship was manufactured and your emotions were manipulated to make you feel anxious, nervous and your self-esteem is non-existent. Their BIGGEST FEAR is being abandoned and yet this is what they do. BUT WHAT YOU MIGHT NOT REALISE IS THAT IT GOES MUCH DEEPER and it causes damage to your brain. I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Coach and Author - Finding Lily & A to Z of Emotional Abuse I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU A to Z of Emotional Abuse Waterstones https://www.waterstones.com/book/a-z-... Book Depository https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-... Amazon.co.uk https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-... Barnes and Noble https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-... Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Z-Emotional-Ab... Music from bensounds.com Images unsplash.com

In this video, I talk about understanding what it is that is keeping you trapped, why you keep thinking about them, why you want them back in your life AND what you can do next. In telecommunications, a scrambler is a device that manipulates a data stream before transmitting it. And this is what they have done to you; your thoughts and emotions are no longer your own.  And it is the Trauma bonding that keeps you trapped for so long. This was a game and you didn't have the rules, and while you are trying to understand what happened you might receive contact, they poke you wanting you to react for their own enjoyment, entertainment and validation. You might have been the scapegoat in your family, the words you heard, might have been similar to those you heard growing up. Find out if you are still trapped! WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk For 1 2 1 Coaching / Healing session email info@reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul/ — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/14994... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... #npd #narcissist #scapegoat NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Emotional Abuse Expert & Author - Finding Lily and A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I qualified Spiritual Life Coach helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD. Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life BUT I also know what it is like to be finally free! A to Z of Emotional Abuse Waterstones https://www.waterstones.com/book/a-z-... Book Depository https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-... Amazon.co.uk https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-... Barnes and Noble https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-... Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Z-Emotional-Ab... Music from bensounds.com

Are you still trapped by the trauma bond? In this video, I talk about 6 things that indicate you are still in the Trauma Bond. Trauma Bonding is the most painful and emotionally paralysing thing that can happen to you. And it is the Trauma bonding that keeps you trapped for so long. This was a game and you didn't have the rules, and while you are trying to understand what happened you might receive contact, they poke you wanting you to react for their own enjoyment, entertainment and validation. Find out if you are still trapped! WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul/ — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/1499443003407345/ — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyoursoul/ — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/426398094980713/ #npd #narcissist NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Emotional Abuse Expert & Author - Finding Lily and A to Z of Emotional Abuse. I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I qualified Spiritual Life Coach helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD. Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life BUT I also know what it is like to be finally free! A to Z of Emotional Abuse Waterstones https://www.waterstones.com/book/a-z-of-emotional-abuse/elizabeth-goddard/9781916357709 Book Depository https://www.bookdepository.com/-Z-of-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/9781916357709 Amazon.co.uk https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1HFCXHD8LB8EM&dchild=1&keywords=a-z+of+emotional+abuse&qid=1585842200&sprefix=a+to+z+of+emotional+a%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-3 Barnes and Noble https://www.amazon.co.uk/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=sr_1_3?crid=1HFCXHD8LB8EM&dchild=1&keywords=a-z+of+emotional+abuse&qid=1585842200&sprefix=a+to+z+of+emotional+a%2Caps%2C144&sr=8-3 Amazon.com https://www.amazon.com/Z-Emotional-Abuse-Elizabeth-Goddard/dp/1916357709/ref=sr_1_1?crid=15XOW0U2ONL0W&dchild=1&keywords=elizabeth+goddard+a-z+of+emotional+abuse&qid=1586549715&sprefix=a-z+of+emotion%2Caps%2C207&sr=8-1#customerReviews Music from bensounds.com Images unsplash.com

When any relationship ends it is painful particularly when one person isn't ready for it to be over. BUT this wasn't a normal relationship. The relationship was manufactured and your emotions were manipulated to make you feel anxious, nervous and your self-esteem is non-existent. There is a pattern to the behaviour • The Cycle of Abuse • Idealisation followed by Devaluation and then on to Discard. On average people go back to an emotionally abusive relationship between 7 to 8 times. When you are experiencing the discard stage all you can think of is getting back to the Idealisation stage where you feel loved and secure. Their BIGGEST FEAR is being abandoned and yet this is what they do. Normally I would be posting about healing from abuse but it is you are still caught in this cycle you might no be ready to do that. Here are 7 ways to make the Narcissist Miss you. See how you feel and you never know what your next step will be... I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules to. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU Images from UNSPLASH.COM music from BENSOUNDS.COM

The NARCISSIST and EMOTIONAL ABUSER used Sex to Manipulate and Bond you to them. This was a game and you didn't have the rules! And now you are left begging for more... In this video I look at how the Narcissist feels about sex - do they enjoy it or is it just a tool for manipulations? Perhaps you are confused and trying to understand what happened at the end of your relationship? Are you screaming on the inside but holding it together on the outside? Or maybe you are feeling crazy and nothing makes sense? Or it could be you are stuck in the cycle of questioning and doubting yourself IF ONLY AND MAYBE…“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ thinking it is all your fault! ABUSIVE CYCLES • The ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour used to gain POWER and CONTROL over a person. The cycle of abuse IDEALISATION • DEVALUATION • DISCARD I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

The NARCISSIST and EMOTIONAL ABUSER used Sex to Manipulate and Bond you to them AND they may have COERCED you to gain power over you! Sexual coercion is unwanted sexual activity that happens when you are pressured, tricked, threatened, or forced in a nonphysical way. Coercion can make you think you owe sex to someone. This was a game and you didn't have the rules! And now you are left begging for more... Perhaps you are confused and trying to understand what happened at the end of your relationship? Are you screaming on the inside but holding it together on the outside? Or maybe you are feeling crazy and nothing makes sense? Or it could be you are stuck in the cycle of questioning and doubting yourself IF ONLY AND MAYBE…“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ thinking it is all your fault! ABUSIVE CYCLES • The ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour used to gain POWER and CONTROL over a person. The cycle of abuse IDEALISATION • DEVALUATION • DISCARD I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life. Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

The NARCISSIST and EMOTIONAL ABUSER used Sex to Manipulate and Bond you to them. This was a game and you didn't have the rules! And now you are left begging for more... In this video I look at how the Narcissist feels about sex - do they enjoy it or is it just a tool for manipulations? Perhaps you are confused and trying to understand what happened at the end of your relationship? Are you screaming on the inside but holding it together on the outside? Or maybe you are feeling crazy and nothing makes sense? Or it could be you are stuck in the cycle of questioning and doubting yourself IF ONLY AND MAYBE…“If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ thinking it is all your fault! ABUSIVE CYCLES • The ongoing rotation of destructive behaviour used to gain POWER and CONTROL over a person. The cycle of abuse IDEALISATION • DEVALUATION • DISCARD I believe understanding is the first stepping stone to taking back the POWER and CONTROL of your life and the first step to healing from the damage that has been caused. WEBSITE: http://reviveyoursoul.co.uk CONNECT — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ReviveYourSoul — Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/groups/mindt... — Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/reviveyours... — Twitter: https://twitter.com/reviveursoul The DIVORCE SANCTUARY: — https://www.facebook.com/groups/42639... NOTE: Elizabeth Goddard • Soul Transformation Therapist • Soul Plan Reader • Reiki Master Teacher • Author - Finding Lily I am not a psychologist or a counsellor, I am Soul Transformation • Core Issue Therapist, helping you to find the ORIGINAL WOUND and heal from the EMOTIONAL ABUSE you have experienced and turn the GRIT INTO GOLD in your life . Through my own healing journey, I know the damage Emotional Abuse leaves in your life, PHYSICALLY, MENTALLY, EMOTIONALLY and SPIRITUALLY. At the end of my relationship, I realised this was a game to which I didn’t have the rules. I was left a shell of my former self and I’d lost everything; I was broke and broken… I found myself stuck in a debilitating cycle of questioning and doubting myself - “If only I had said… If only I hadn’t said… Maybe if I had done… Maybe if I hadn’t done… “ Despite being told otherwise, I believed it was all my fault and found myself protecting the abuser. If you found this content useful, PLEASE LIKE, SUBSCRIBE & SHARE with others who can benefit • THANK YOU

COERCIVE CONTROL is EMOTIONAL ABUSE, it is used to harm, punish and frighten the VICTIM. This form of behaviour is used to make the victim dependent on the abuser. Isolating them from friends and family, they exploit them and deprive them of their independence, regulate their everyday behaviour. It does not relate to one single incident; it is a pattern that occurs over time. Used for one individual to exert POWER and CONTROL over another. #COERCIVE CONTROL is now a crime in the UK. The law came into force on 29th December 2015. In July 2019 #SallyChallen walked free from court which is now being used as a landmark case, that I hope will change the courts’ process when dealing with the real VICTIM. Sally murdered her husband in 2010. At the time of her conviction, #CoerciveControl was not a crime and she was sentenced to life imprisonment. Following the change in the law #JusticeforWomen submitted new grounds of appeal in 2017, these were refused by the judge. In February 2019 #HarrietWistrich asked for Sally’s conviction to be overturned and she was released in April on conditional bail. In June 2019, prosecutors accepted Sally’s plea of manslaughter. Sally had served 8 years and 10 months, her retrial was later dropped. COERCIVE CONTROL creates invisible chains. People might ask why you didn’t leave earlier, or why you didn’t you see what was going on. During the CYCLE OF ABUSE, there was a point where you lost who you were, and your focus was more about protecting the relationship than protecting yourself. It was these invisible chains that stop you from walking away, the fake future stops you from moving on. Your body gets used to the hormone triggers and is actually waiting for the next hit of Oxytocin you received during the #LoveBombing. The real victim finds themself in a world manufactured by the abuser, living in confusion and fear. Some common examples12 of COERCIVE behaviour are: Isolating you from friends and family, monitoring your time • Monitoring you via online communication tools or spyware • Taking control over aspects of your everyday life, such as where you can go, who you can see, what you can wear and when you can sleep • Depriving you of access to support services, such as medical services • Repeatedly putting you down, such as saying you’re worthless • Humiliating, degrading or dehumanising you • Controlling your finances • Making threats or intimidating you • It is very likely that the victim of Emotional Abuse doesn’t realise they are in a controlling relationship, and this doesn't become clear until they are out of it. And it takes time to untangle from the invisible chains that held you there. Please be advised that this video is for education and entertainment purposes. All materials and photographs have been found on the public domain and are used under the US fair use and UK fair dealings guidelines. My comments are subjective and may not necessarily be true. I urge everyone to do their own research. Images and information from: https://www.bbc.co.uk/news/uk-england-surrey-48554239 https://www.telegraph.co.uk/news/2019/02/28/sally-challen-wins-appeal-against-murder-conviction-landmark/ https://www.theguardian.com/uk-news/2019/jun/07/sally-challen-will-not-face-retrial-for-killing-husband https://www.msn.com/en-ie/news/truecrime/yes-i-battered-my-husband-to-death-but-i-still-love-him-sally-challen-who-killed-her-husband-then-had-her-conviction-quashed-by-proving-his-psychological-torture-drove-her-to-it-tells-her-story-to-save-others-from-her-fate/ar-AAHirnr?li=AAaxjhv&%253Bocid=mailsignout#image=3 https://www.thetimes.co.uk/article/the-case-of-sally-challen-review-even-after-she-killed-him-she-still-loved-him-lp0wj37q8 https://www.itv.com/news/2019-02-20/son-of-sally-challen-jailed-for-life-for-killing-his-father-hopeful-her-murder-conviction-will-be-overturned-on-appeal/ https://www.telegraph.co.uk/tv/2019/12/09/case-sally-challen-review-meticulous-look-one-surreal-cases/ https://www.womensaid.org.uk/information-support/what-is-domestic-abuse/coercive-control/